How to start a breakup journal

In the days after a breakup, your head replays the same conversation on a loop, and you find yourself drafting a message at night that you don't end up sending.

Rainku has a flow built for this exact moment. Open it and you get rain visuals and rain sound, a blank page in the middle, and an AI you can talk to on the side. You don't have to pull yourself together before you open it.

Why Rainku helps during a breakup

• Pulls your head out of the loop for a while. With the rain visuals and rain sound on, the frequency of replaying that conversation in your head drops on its own.
• The things you can't tell friends, you can write down. Friends worry, and friends have opinions of their own. A journal has no audience. Write it down once, then decide what to do with it. What happens to it after is in the privacy policy.
• A few weeks in, you can see where you were. Memory of those weeks goes blurry. Scrolling back to early entries shows you how far this week already moved.
• Slowly the line between "still thinking about my ex" and "what I actually want" gets clearer. Early entries are mostly about your ex. After a while, the entries fill up with things you care about for yourself.

5 things to try

1. Open Rainku and pick how you want to start tonight

• Type. Classic writing mode. Cursor on a blank page, every word deletable.
• Speak. Full-screen voice-to-text, pauses don't cut you off. Speaking is faster than typing, especially when emotions show up.
• AI conversation. It asks one question at a time. You just answer. Use this when your head is messy and you don't know where to begin.

2. Decide what tonight is for

• Dump. Get the looping thoughts out. No order required.
• Reflect. Look back at what this relationship taught you.

3. Seven questions for when the page is blank

1. What's the strongest emotion right now, and where do you feel it in your body?
2. Write a letter to your ex you won't send. Start with: "There was something I never got to tell you…"
3. What do you most want to let go of right now that you haven't let go of yet?
4. In your next relationship, what is now clearly off the list?
5. What's one small thing you did for yourself this past week? (Not replying to your ex counts.)
6. What's one thing you could do for yourself today? Nothing big, just the kind of thing that leaves you a little better off.
7. Write to yourself one month from now: what do you want that version of you to remember?

Tip. You don't have to answer all of them. Pick the one that lands hardest right now.

4. Give it a small fixed slot

• Mornings, rain visuals on, ten minutes first.
• Before bed, write down whatever you've been turning over today, then turn off the light.
• On the commute, voice input. Five minutes works.

5. Check your own progress

• Scroll back to early entries. One glance at what you wrote then tells you how far this week already moved.
• Same thought keeps showing up → mark it. You'll know which things still get you stuck.
• Write one monthly check-in. A fixed time to take stock with yourself.

You won't be okay every day in the weeks after a breakup. The journal remembers this stretch, and that's enough.

One last line

Starting a journal in the middle of a breakup doesn't need you to be ready. Rainku opens the first page. What to write next is yours to decide.

Rainku also has dedicated entries for other moments: postpartum, expat life, career pivot. And a broader getting-started guide.